I honestly don't know if I will ever write it but I have in the past talked about writing a book on waiting for the right man in your life and not settling for just a boy! It is still a possibility... The only reason I mention it is that this blog post could very well be one of the beginning chapters of the book.
I have often heard it said that patience is a virtue. But what is a virtue and why should I have it anyway! When I looked it up the premise of it is a virtue is a positive trait or quality deemed to be morally good and thus is valued as a foundation of principle and good moral being. That being said I can agree that patience is a trait I value as the foundation of principle. My brother being the incredible young man he is occasionally calls me "chayil 'ishshah" in reference to Proverbs 31:10, it is the original Hebrew text for virtuous woman. He calls out the very virtue I should have in my life. I am learning to let my life reflect such an excellence in character. Someday I hope to reflect such virtue in the eyes of a different man in my life!
There's that word... Someday! That is really what I have stirring in my heart right now. The Someday! Someday is a day that many of us for the most part as girls romanticize. I should clarify this I am not saying this is bad thing! Someday is a good thing! But what I am saying is don't put off someday trying to get to someday! Because if you do that you will spend a lifetime living the todays or tomorrows never reaching someday.
I want to tell you a story about two people and how they met. A few years ago on the night before Christmas eve there was a young lady named Beth working the late shift in communications on an overseas military base. There was also a young man named Paul who worked in the same place but worked a different shift so they had not met. Paul being up late and not really having anyone to talk to decided to call into work knowing it was usually pretty slow at that hour. Beth was working with another guy that happened to know Paul they talked for a while and eventually Beth joined the conversation. Paul thinking it might be fun to get together when everyone wasn't working asked if anyone had every had Mongolian BBQ because there was supposed to be some close by on Christmas eve. Everyone agreed it would be fun! So the next day when Paul having been on leave for a couple days showed up to pick up Beth, He was wearing of Jeans and a T-shirt with a scruffy look from not shaving for a couple days and well introduced himself saying "Hi, I'm ZanyNut Zinn!" Now if you don't know me all that well you wouldn't have known by their names that this story is about how my parents met. I'm using this story to say two things. First I am able to share it for the most part from memory because well I have heard it like a million times! I love the story because like most people they weren't planning on having a day that was, well going to change their lives forever but well they did... they had a Someday! Which leads to my second point in the midst of all their todays there was a someday that probably started off looking a lot like it was just going to be another today!
Many of us spend our life looking for Someday when we could be enjoying Today! Remember this Today has the potential becoming that Someday!I think that patience is enjoying the today while waiting for someday!
Thank you!
Alicia
Tuesday, July 17, 2012
Friday, July 6, 2012
Learning to Love!
It has been a long time since I have written anything anywhere but on paper or Facebook! I has been an especially long time since I have written anything on any of my blogs this one in particular! My life has not been short on the occasional inspired thought I guess it is about time to start sharing them again!
In my small group at church we have been revisiting some old principles for me. We had started reviewing the Five Love Languages. For some you may have never heard of them if not I highly recommend the book, it is a quick read and may teach you more about yourself and those that you love then you can even imagine! It will change the way you perceive and understand giving and receiving love!
For those that have heard of the Love Languages the rest will make sense!
For those of my friends that don't know my primary love languages are Quality Time with an Eleven out of Thirty and Physical Touch with a Ten out of Thirty! Apparently not leaving very much room for the rest! Which is somewhat incorrect... As far as for me receiving love they are basically dead on but don't for a second think I don't know how to give in other forms of love that are not my primary! As most of my friends that are primarily Words of Affirmation can probably tell you that I do my best to ensure they feel loved constantly! I love people and the ones in my life are so important to me! As a Quality Time person just the fact that you want to spend time with me long enough to remember my name and have a conversation with me that lasts more than five minutes makes me feel loved and if you started the conversation off with an appropriate hug this encourages me to want to find out how I can show you love the way you best receive love! Erica for example is one of my closest friends and for a while earlier this year when I couldn't drive she would occasionally call me and say hey I need to runs some errands do you wanna tag along! Which to me says Hey can I spend an hour or so with you just hanging out one on one! This is like one of the best ways you can make me feel loved! Be willing to live your life with me one on one! Well my goal after the first time that happened was find out how to make Erica feel equally loved! Erica's primary love language is Words of Affirmation she is especially fond of the written word such as Journals, Postcards & Letters! This inspired an idea from something I used to do back in middle school! A shared journal! It is basically a journal where you write the other person a letter and then they read it and write you back on the next page. We trade ours back and forth a couple times a week. It is like having a pen pal that you see on a weekly basis! I love it and I hope it blesses her as much as those trips errand running bless me!
I have found that learning about how people give and receive love can improve your relationships tremendously! My relationships my family, my close friends and even my friends that may not have been close before are starting to become very close! I love that loving and being loved is really becoming less of a chore and more of a joy! Now if only I can find a friend that need a back massage once in a while! I think giving physical touch blesses me like receiving! Hahaha!
Much love y'all!
Alicia Zinn
In my small group at church we have been revisiting some old principles for me. We had started reviewing the Five Love Languages. For some you may have never heard of them if not I highly recommend the book, it is a quick read and may teach you more about yourself and those that you love then you can even imagine! It will change the way you perceive and understand giving and receiving love!
For those that have heard of the Love Languages the rest will make sense!
For those of my friends that don't know my primary love languages are Quality Time with an Eleven out of Thirty and Physical Touch with a Ten out of Thirty! Apparently not leaving very much room for the rest! Which is somewhat incorrect... As far as for me receiving love they are basically dead on but don't for a second think I don't know how to give in other forms of love that are not my primary! As most of my friends that are primarily Words of Affirmation can probably tell you that I do my best to ensure they feel loved constantly! I love people and the ones in my life are so important to me! As a Quality Time person just the fact that you want to spend time with me long enough to remember my name and have a conversation with me that lasts more than five minutes makes me feel loved and if you started the conversation off with an appropriate hug this encourages me to want to find out how I can show you love the way you best receive love! Erica for example is one of my closest friends and for a while earlier this year when I couldn't drive she would occasionally call me and say hey I need to runs some errands do you wanna tag along! Which to me says Hey can I spend an hour or so with you just hanging out one on one! This is like one of the best ways you can make me feel loved! Be willing to live your life with me one on one! Well my goal after the first time that happened was find out how to make Erica feel equally loved! Erica's primary love language is Words of Affirmation she is especially fond of the written word such as Journals, Postcards & Letters! This inspired an idea from something I used to do back in middle school! A shared journal! It is basically a journal where you write the other person a letter and then they read it and write you back on the next page. We trade ours back and forth a couple times a week. It is like having a pen pal that you see on a weekly basis! I love it and I hope it blesses her as much as those trips errand running bless me!
I have found that learning about how people give and receive love can improve your relationships tremendously! My relationships my family, my close friends and even my friends that may not have been close before are starting to become very close! I love that loving and being loved is really becoming less of a chore and more of a joy! Now if only I can find a friend that need a back massage once in a while! I think giving physical touch blesses me like receiving! Hahaha!
Much love y'all!
Alicia Zinn
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